In result of having a somewhat frank talk about relationships with a friend, it seems that (no fucking duh) the grass is always greener when it comes to whether you’re in a relationship or not. If you’re single it’s always the question or concern of finding the time to date, or the stomach to sort through the human mutants that respond to you on OkCupid with, “Hi. Where do you live; do you like to fuck?” And if you’re in a relationship perhaps sometimes the question or concern surrounds your level of creative productivity when your partner is around, or whether it’s worth investing in a relationship with someone who doesn’t put the toilet seat down — ever.
The answer, in my humble, and slightly serial monogamous experience is that it’s always and only all about you. You may be perfectly happy with someone, but you are alone with you. You can be completely alone without a good bang in years and still have a full and happy life with yourself. At the end of the glorious day you have to look out for you. Let me be preachy for a moment and go through the reasons: 1. The more you spend time working on yourself the more fuckable you are; 2. Girlfriends, boyfriends, wives and mistresses come and go, but having a solid relationship with your children, co-workers, friends, and family is always going to increase your well-being and quality of life; 3. Being a power couple (aka both you and your partner having your shit together) is very sexy for the brain and vaginal glands.
You may already know this, but as a reminder, true partnership and a real connection to another human being is in fact the only way to experience growth as an individual. And here’s the kicker; the person whom you find to be your companion doesn’t have to be the person that you’re sleeping with. Remember that and know that I love you and this is really all just a reminder for myself.